Ugh Chris,
Have you ever tried to change the mind of someone who insists that how they see things is right, when you know it’s not?
Signed,
Stop the madness
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Yes, let’s truly stop the madness…
The madness of assuming you can change someone’s mind or perspective.
It isn’t your responsibility, nor your right to ask someone to change their mind to suit you.
It would not suit you, to have someone hell bent on changing your mind either.
Remember, we all came into this world to have this experience, this journey, this time for our own evolution.
Which means we’re supposed to have different perspectives and opinions. Otherwise, what a boring existence of non-growth we would be subject to.
Now let’s get down to why you want the other person to see things, your way.
It’s about power and control.
- And the more you try to wield it, the more resistant others become.
- The more you try to make them see that their way is wrong, the more they will see that they are right.
You’re just creating more of what you don’t want.
So let’s just, for giggles, say that you want to “win.”
Do you want to know the secret to “winning” when others stand staunchly in their position?
Ready for it?
You give.
This gives you far more power and control than you could possible obtain by pushing them to agree with your side.
If you ever saw the Star Wars movie (the first one), Obi Wan drops his light saber and allows Darth Vader to take him out.
He gave.
As a result, he became FAR MORE powerful than Vader anticipated, because now he was truly ONE with the Force and could wield that power and control unimpeded.
I’m not suggesting that you “take yourself out” when you have a really good reason to try to help them see a different perspective. Who knows, maybe it will impact or improve their lives by listening to you.
However, what I am suggesting is that by “giving in” to their “having” their perspective, you may have more influence than you think. And then, they will “hear” your perspective.
When you do this, the person starts to question…
- Why you aren’t they trying to change my mind on this?
- Do they know something I don’t?
- Do they not care enough about this, and won’t give me their two cents?
It starts to mess with their minds!
Then they want to engage in a conversation, if only to ensure they’re not missing out on something.
So in short, stop the madness, stop trying to change the world and give yourself a path to winning more peace and love in your life.
~ Let life love you!
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