Help Chris,
I would love to stop judging myself and blaming my self.
Any suggestions for me?
Signed,
Judgmental
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Hey Judgmental,
Let me first applaud you, for asking for suggestions to improve the way you love yourself.
Yes, love yourself.
More on that in a minute.
Let me next say, you’re not alone.
We’ll start here.
You see, we’re all human beings on a journey of self development. How do I know that?
Because the only reason we judge is because we think it could be better.
If you didn’t think so, you wouldn’t care enough TO judge.
Having said that, if you look at your judging as a way of developing into an enhanced you…then it’s the next step, that matters more than the judging.
When you judge that you aren’t as happy as you want to be, you’re sad/depressed too often, then you’ve identified a way you really want to be.
Otherwise, you’d embrace being sad/depressed and move on with your life.
So look at the things that you are judging and blaming yourself for and identify what it really means…
Or…what it COULD mean.
- Don’t like your hair, clothes, shoes? Sounds like you care about how you present yourself to yourself and the world.
- Don’t like speaking in meetings or in front of people? Sounds like you want to create better connections and relationships.
Look at what it COULD mean, judgmental…what does it really sound like and how could it serve you.
Now, we’ll return to loving yourself.
I hinted at this earlier when I said if you didn’t care you’d just move on. But you didn’t…you reached out for a suggestion.
Which means to me, judgmental, is that if you COULD look differently, at what you judge and blame yourself for, you’d find an opportunity to identify what you really want.
We can’t get away from judging…it’s in our DNA.
I have a “post it” note to remind me to try to judge with love. Not always easy, but that’s my self development opportunity.
I support you in creating yours!
Stay strong and remember what it “could” be…
~ Find the gift!
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