Hi Chris,
I’ve often heard it said, facing our reality or truth doesn’t need to be painful.
I really think that’s bull.
It’s VERY painful to accept the truth sometimes.
With that being said, are there ways to make it less painful when facing reality?
Signed,
The truth is out there
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Ah the truth…yes it IS out there…and it’s never a stranger.
So there is some merit in the statement “the truth doesn’t need to be painful.” It goes along with the often shared advice:
The truth shall set you free
You see, when we’re ready to embrace the truth, we stop looking for it to be different than what it is. As a result, you relax into acceptance and freedom.
I fully agree with you, the truth is out there, it CAN be painful. Imagine that you’ve believe in something or someone and you can’t understand why it’s not “acting” the way you think it should.
You fight, kick, scream and rage against it hoping that in some way it can be what you want it to be. But alas, it remains.
For example, say you have a friend who loves to share the details of their life. They feel comfortable and see you as an incredible confidant with whom they can unload whatever is in their hearts and minds.
You also want to experience the same kind of support from them when you share your life. However, they interrupt and tell you how it’s SO much harder for them. They don’t give you the same space to share and continue to want/expect you to give same to them.
You might even have a conversation with them to explain how you feel and what it is you want from your relationship. They may even say, “Ok, I hear you and I will be sure to give you the space and the ear you need, my friend.” And then, as if on cue, they break into your story to tell you how it is for them.
Now, if this is a dear friend and you feel incredibly confident in your relationship, you may not want to end it. I get it. But it’s really NOT a relationship. It’s an acquaintance who feels comfortable bending your ear.
You deserve better.
So while it may be “painful” to accept the truth…We are made better by it.
This is likely not someone with whom you can share a relationship, that is based on mutual sharing and respect. It is best to accept the truth of it…painful as it may be.
And since pain is ALWAYS temporary, know that this too shall pass.
The experience and the lesson, however, are permanent…thank goodness!
It’s about perspective, the truth is out there, when there is pain in truth, there is also growth.
The power of any truth? We are made better by it.
My best, always!
~ Let life love you!
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